The mother wound is essentially an internalized set of limiting beliefs and patterns that stem from the relationship with one’s own mother. It’s typically a generational wound that has passed down from mother to mother.
If your mother was overly critical of you, competed with you, was jealous of you, tore you down verbally or physically, invaded your privacy, betrayed you, or was untrustworthy, you likely have the mother wound.
Mothers are people. If they are wounded and do not do the work to heal themselves, they often take their pain out on other people, to include their own children. This is a toxic pattern that must be stopped. If you are reading this, this pattern can stop with you!
Ways to heal the mother wound
– Seek therapy if you are drawn to that approach.
– Write down your experience and feelings in a journal, then do a ritual such as safely burning the pages to release the energy.
– Talk about it with a trusted friend.
Approaches that worked best for me
– Write down all the qualities that you believe a wonderful mother embodies such as nurturing, protective, wise, loving, trustworthy, etc.
– Find women or examples of women that embody those characteristics so that you can see them in action.
– Begin to focus on developing those qualities in yourself. Mother yourself and begin to give yourself those very qualities.
– Energy healing is a powerful tool that can help clear away the toxic patterns and balance the energy field. I did lots of energy healing while I healed this wound in myself.
– Release victim consciousness. You did nothing wrong and did not deserve the treatment you endured. However, if you feel like a victim and the person who victimized you will not admit the behavior or change, you are left feeling powerless. When you shift into responsibility for where you are now, you are able to heal and transmute the energy.
– Honor other women who embody healthy mother relationships and examples. This is a collective consciousness wound, so the more women who break the pattern, the better off the planet will be.
I used to feel jealous of women who had wonderful mother relationships, but then I realized that part of my mission in this life was to break this pattern for my lineage. I came here to be a change agent, and perhaps you incarnated to heal this wound for future generations as well.
You can heal this! It doesn’t matter how far along the journey you are, how long it’s been going on, how old you are, or if your mother is living or deceased. The fact that you were drawn to this blog means that it’s your time to release this wound and generational pattern. You can do this!
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